After words.

My husband was the protagonist in “Dementia isn’t funny.” He was also the reason there were so many laughs throughout our near 40 year marriage; in fact, he taught me how to laugh.

During these now seven months since Peter’s passing, I’ve filed laughable moments in my mind to remember to tell him when I visit…

    …There was message from a medical equipment supplier four weeks after his death that a hospital bed would be delivered to his room that day…

  …In October, I found a package on the doorstep with the special shoes for diabetics that I’d ordered in July…

    …One day I had a call from the facility where he’d lived. A possible carer had been found at last. Did I want to interview her?

  If he were here and if I could tell him face to face, he would grumble, “Too little, too late.” Bittersweet, but we would’ve laughed nevertheless.

Peter would have loved the Celebration of Life we hosted. It was a spectacular late September day. Friends old and new gathered to raise a toast and share stories. Several of his General Electric colleagues mentioned pranks I’d certainly never heard before! We laughed through tears.

I’ve put off writing this final post while mulling over whether to start a new blog. A number of readers have prodded me to continue, but I question myself. Am I up for it mentally? Do I really have anything left to say? What’s my angle? My thoughts are erratic, as random as butterflies in a patch of goldenrod. Even though I haven’t yet answered my questions nor calmed those butterflies, I do intend to carry on.

Header photo: Sunset on the Sea of Cortez, Baja California, Mexico, 2006


26 thoughts on “After words.

  1. Judith,
    I hope you will continue. Your words have brought me comfort, laughter and friendship.

  2. Please do continue your writing. It’s good for you and good for those of us who care about you.

  3. I do hope you continue to write. I’m just now on the caregiving path in caring for my husband who has Alzheimer’s. He’s currently at the middle stage and I’m still learning the ins and outs of this disease. Blessings to you and again, I hope you continue to write. I’ve found writing a big help to my emotional health and well-being.

  4. I’m glad you decided to continue writing. You have such a beautiful way of taking a difficult topic and making it touching to all of us who are fortunate enough to read your stories. Continue forward!!

  5. And carry on you will!! You’re too good a writer not to and you have so much to add to the story❤️❤️

  6. Judith, I am so grateful that you have shared so many moments with us. I don’t know you, but I know one of your beautiful daughters, Carolynn, and it’s clear that she had incredible parents and a loving family. My mother had dementia and has since passed, but I want you to know that I felt it all, every time I read your blog. I thought of you and your daughters every time. You’re an incredible woman, as well as an exceptional wordsmith. Keep on keeping on. Sending hugs.

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